V, INSTAGRAM, KIK AND A CATFISH

Ever been cat-fished? Because I have.

I thought I might take a more personal approach to online persona’s and the masks we hide behind, as I have been a victim of social media’s underbelly, also known as cat-fishing. Continue reading if you are prepared to cringe a lot and also want to feel second-hand embarrassment. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Being cat-fished on Kik was probably one of the lowest points of my online existence.

I remember owning a widely popular Instagram account lamely named ~ @inspiration_station__ ~ (It has since been passed on, so don’t get those phones out) which had 10,000 followers. Being a ripe age of 14, I was the first person in my friendship group to download the photo sharing app. Kik was also a massive part of my short-lived Instagram fame, as I could directly message people who wanted to get in touch about my account.

This is where I experienced my first and last ever cat-fishing incident.

Someone had messaged me on Kik asking to be a co-owner of my page in order to share the work load. She was also a huge influence on Instagram, so I thought “why not” and “MORE FAME YES.” We got to talking and she sent me a photo of what she supposedly looked like. Looking back at it now, it was obviously the most basic RAWR XD Tumblr photo, but I thought it was legit.

Following this, she repeatedly messaged me saying that her “boyfriend” was messaging me, but it was actually her just being an absolute weirdo. Soon after this, she deleted her own Instagram account,  and changed the password to the account I was supposed to co-own with her, alongside my own.

This is when the warning signs began flashing in my underdeveloped brain.

I quickly deleted the app, changed my Instagram password, made a new private account, and gave away my old account, along with my hard-earned 10,000 followers. I was a stupid kid, but not THAT stupid. Gosh.

And I guess this is the real reason why my mum didn’t let me get Facebook until I was 16. Shoutout to you for knowing what’s good.

From my own thoroughly embarrassing experience, I can honestly say it’s almost too easy to fall for an individuals online persona and presence. You can disguise yourself as anyone or anything, it’s your decision. This is ultimately why social apps such as Instagram, Tinder and Twitter can be so dangerous. It’s up to you to not get cat-fished. Example no.2.

So with this in mind, I would like to leave you all with this excellent representation of me online versus me in real life, to really hammer home how anyone can fool you, even those you are close with. (P.s. don’t stress, I don’t actually own one of those private spam Instagram accounts).

Cheers,

V 🍻

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9 thoughts on “V, INSTAGRAM, KIK AND A CATFISH

  1. christineevansblog says:

    Hey V,
    Really liked this blog of yours – showed good amount of information when it comes to ‘Being Cat-fished’ and what gave a better effect to it was you shared a personal experience thus making it very relative to some readers like me, as I have been a catfish victim in the past to and know how it feels.
    The blog would have gone to an expert level if you gave it an ending where you could have shared with your readers instructions showing how do you prevent it from happening
    https://www.lifewire.com/how-to-avoid-getting-catfished-online-2487771
    This site give out good information about what to do and not to do when it comes to being ‘Cat- fished’.

    Great Blog.
    Great Weekend.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Have A Beer With V says:

      Hey Christine, that is actually such a good idea!
      Cat-fishing is extremely prominent in our online era, and I think the inclusion of how to not get cat-fished would’ve been a great inclusion.
      Thanks for the constructive feedback!- V

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Harry O'Brien says:

    Hey! I really enjoyed the personal approach you made to online persona, love the sentence “social media’s underbelly, also known as cat-fishing” but can’t believe that actually happened, I always here about stuff like that but never take it at face value. I think this was a really strong example of how literally anyone, can sit behind a screen and project something completely different to who they really are, let alone to convey to the public a filtered version of themselves. In regards to how this ideal impacts individuals on a daily basis, do you think that it’s the advancements in social media technologies, that allows people to show a different version of themselves? Or simply the fact that people are attempting to keep up with societal trends, therefore, feeling the need to convey a filtered version of themselves? In regards to your blog overall you have a really good layout! Super easy to navigate and looks really good.

    Overall great post!
    – Harry

    Liked by 1 person

    • Have A Beer With V says:

      Hey Harry!
      Thanks for the comment, and yea it is super weird to think about unless it actually has happened to you! It’s not fun and it really makes you feel degraded for being so ill-informed about the internet age and its dangers.
      I feel like its definitely people wanting to keep up with social trends and therefore we feel the need to share that filtered side of us.
      Thanks again for the comment!- V

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  3. iamlizzief says:

    Great post, I was definitely triggered because 14 year old me had a great Tumblr blog stolen so I connected with it emotionally haha (still crying on the inside). You create a great argument. Great video at the end for Public vs. Private, I enjoyed it. A very entertaining read and watch. I think the only thing that could be improved would be adding a gif from the actual Catfish TV show. Thank you for sharing your story.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Have A Beer With V says:

      Hey Lizzie,
      That is the worst, tumblr is so bad for that too, especially since its main demographic is white 13/14/15 year old girls who are easily influenced! (I have tumblr myself too).
      Thanks for the constructive feedback, much appreciated!- V

      Like

  4. lanawilliamsblog says:

    Hey! omg thats sound so horrible i honestly feel for you! its crazy how at such a young age we just believe everything on the internet. The personal touch you have given this post has really showed a clear indication that anyone could be a “catfish” and a completely fake persona. Its a well written piece and it is safe to say i am know questioning my own existence online! 🙂

    cheers!

    Liked by 1 person

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