Before this year, I would say I had quite an ideal relationship with media and its varying forms. From where I was standing, I could confidently say it wasn’t defining who I was and who I was looking out for. Before the beginning of this year I would say I had a strong media presence, but my world didn’t revolve around it.
Since then, this has slowly begun to change. There is now some weird culture around “active” statuses on social media. If this concept makes no sense to you, check out the photo below.
Recently I’ve found myself constantly checking apps such as Instagram, Facebook and the infamous Snapchat “snap maps” to see if certain people are active or how long since they were last active. This goes for anyone I am in close contact with on a regular basis (sorry everyone but I’ve slowly become a serial stalker).
However, I’m working on turning this around. It’s been a challenge, but a welcome one.
This “active” status culture has seen me become the victim of the classic avoidance technique on social media (seen and no reply, or not seen but still active on varying media platforms). But alas, I have also used the classic avoidance technique. Whether it be to spite someone or to send a message that I, also, would rather be talking to someone else, I still do it.
I even have a friend who purposefully avoids being active on all social media so that her colleagues won’t try to call her into work, or ask her questions about work, or ask her to do extra work things on her day off.
It’s tactical, but if like me, you struggle with physically restraining yourself from replying to particular people, it is ridiculously exhausting.
I say bring back MSN where you could change your online status to “offline” or “busy” with the perilous click of a mouse. Oh how much easier and less careful I would have to be when stalking.